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| joe, becky and matt. that's kelly's back. ashley and charlotte in the background. |
the bedtime and morning alka seltzer cocktails i imbibed serve notice that i took one step over the line of indulgence at another weekend gathering.
there was a rumbling a couple of weeks ago as an unusually eventful summer news cycle in a short-staffed newsroom made us long for a quiet evening on a back porch with cold drinks.
a few keystrokes later, the flyers went up with a time, date and place, along with the invitation to byob and significant other.
in the days following, if a deadline was particularly harrowing, copydesk would catch its breath and apply salve by proposing hors d'oeuvre ideas for the event. (we're kind of an eating newsroom that way.)
the gathering at diane's was lovely. she and her husband joe have created a beautiful oasis in the hills of south charleston with bright, eclectic design inside and an inviting garden patio outside.
the two were mostly in perpetual motion, making sure glasses were filled or bottles refreshed.
the pot luck spread was a great mix of finger foods -- barbecued beef, hot wings, antipasto and pasta salads, cheese and fruit, great bread and spreads and salsas -- and then dessert.
i love gatherings like these -- no premise, no presents, no guests of honor -- just people friendly with each other who want to unwind and share anything about anything.
funny thing is, it's usually just as fun on the giving end as receiving.
as guests, i don't suppose there's much more to be asked than to throw away your paper plates and dispose of your containers in the appropriate receptacles if you're recycling. (well, that, and, drunk or sober, try not to be an asshole.)
as hosts, well ... busy busy busy.
it's nonstop movement. at last week's fourth of july weekend, kris and i came in after work to the lakehouse friday, ate dinner with mom and dad and did what food prep we could before turning in for the night.
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the second most important task of party preparation. seriously. i'm not sure what the first is. |
saturday, i cleaned the basement den -- and cranked the jams on a zenith (!) hi-fi from the 1970s (complete with 8-track tape deck) -- tuned all the radios in the house to
j-104.5 out of bluefield, prepped the beer tub -- miller lites, coronas and heinies -- then, once guests arrived, played both grill master and harbor pilot to take our guests around flat top lake in the pontoon boat.
kris and mom pretty much just cooked.
kris was our picnic fare specialist, since mom doesn't make too much potato salad or chili. mom had marinated chicken and pork chops for grilling, as well as made chicken and pork adobo (sort of a spanish-asian stew).
kris made brownies and mom made leche flan (an egg custard) and maja blanca (a sweet, creamy corn dessert).
the guests trickled in from around 3 until 7 with desserts and sides. socializing ensued.
by about midnight, after the fireworks were over, my belly was a mix of barbecued meat products, casseroles and alcohol. my calves were already tightening from the trips up and down the hill to the dock.
we'd met many babies from childhood friends and commiserated over the heartbreaks of grownups i'd first met as a child and hadn't seen in years. kris and i were still basking in the glow of our honeymoon time and enjoying the congratulatory slaps on the back from our extended family.
it was sweet.
it wasn't too long ago that i took functions like these for granted, as if there were a never-ending surplus of them, just more work for the latest gathering of loud talk and overeating. ho-hum.
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| kris' mom and dad hit the road. |
as i've gotten older, i've come to see these as moments, snapshots of who is there and who is with us, because the realization has come to dawn on me that there really aren't too many moments in our lives where there is a coalescence of love, cheer and repose with those who mean something to you.
all of them count. so i suppose we should make them worth counting.
it is truly "good time." party on.